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on “Special Women…

The Role of the Professional Labor Assistant”


Paulina Perez and Cheryl Snedeker

Another loan from the lending-library at the midwife center.

More comments tagged in this one…

“The labor assistant… may be the only person who takes the time to really listen to the mother.”

Maybe this is why I’m thinking of having one…

I wonder if insurance helps to pay…?

“Moderate exercise will help the mother learn how strong her body really is and how she can test what she thinks are its limits.”


Just take kickboxing for 4+ years


exercise through joint pain…

Live and learn.

“Exercising may also help her become psychologically comfortable …”

Doesn’t it, though…

“In many ways, no matter who is there assisting,

birth is a solitary affair.

pain is tolerable


it is not continuous.

quickly the pain stops


how joy and relief take over as soon as the baby is born.

focused on how beautiful the birth will be.

Encouraging the mother to keep a journal of her thoughts and feelings is another way the labor assistant can help the mother to begin to get in touch with herself.

A journal is  nonjudgemental and is available at all times.

learned much from the experience.”

I thought this next bit was interesting,


have attempted it to work out issues… yet, I still give it to God… if He wants to give me a dream to figure it out, that’s His decision:

“active dreaming…

suggest thinking about a problem or concern immediately before going to sleep as a way of actively encouraging subconscious activity.”

They did warn: “thinking too much about a problem may cause more sleep disturbances.”


The rest is from the last few pages of the book:

“… often see themselves as the guardians of normal birth. They want women’s choices about their birth to be respected. They want to help women grow and experience a joy they have never known before. They fully realize the impact the birth experience can have on women’s lives and want the impact to be positive.”

“… help a couple feel comfortable medically and emotionally

She must demonstrate loyalty to her clients while trying to interface with hospital personnel.

-to interpret what others have said.

… helping families to let birth teach them lessons about themselves and about life.”


Recommended Reading at the back of the book – These are the ones that stuck out to me at the time I scanned the book:

-“The New Healing Yourself During Pregnancy,” Joy Gardner. The Crossing Press: Freedom, CA, 1987.

-“Pregnant Feelings: A Workbook for Pregnant Women and Their Partners,” Rahima Baldwin and Terra Palmarini. Celestial Arts: Berkley, CA, 1986.

-“Spiritual Midwifery,” Revised Edition. Ina May Gaskin. Book Publishing Co.: Summertown, TN, 1980.

-“Birthing Companions: The Key to a Positive Hospital Birth Experience” Lily Fountain Werbos, “Midwifery Today,” 1:5, pp. 24-25, Winter, 1988.

-“Massage for Childbirth” Mirka Knaster, East-West Journal, July 1985, pp. 57-62.

-“The Midwife as Doula: A Guide to Mothering the Mother,” Dana Raphael, “The Journal of Nurse Midwifery,” 26 (6), pp. 13-15, 1981.

-“Mothering the New Mother” Johnetta Frick Rodriques, “MS Magazine,” May 1986.

-“My Way: The Support of a Third Person During Labor Helps an Expectant Couple Enormously” Beth Shearer, “Childbirth Educator.”

-“Natural Childbirth: Nurses in Private Practice as Monitrices” Hommel F, “Amer J of Nursing,” 69:1446-50. 1969




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on a guide for midwives

Back in college, I pondered becoming a midwife…

training though was out of state, and another 5 years of my life.

When I was pregnant with my first, I went to a midwife center,

the best:

a lending-library!

Here’s just a few notes that stuck out to me in a review of the book:

“Evidence-Based Care for Normal Labour and Birth – A Guide for Midwives”

by Denis Walsh

“Les than 60% of women experienced contractions as the starting point of their labours.

-28% = fluid loss

-24% = constant pain

-16% = blood-stained loss

-6% = emotional upheaval

-4% = sleep alterations

as heralding the start of labour, none of which fit the classic textbook definition.”

Learned last night,

one lady experienced stomach upset-ness…


delivered a baby. She never even knew she was pregnant.


This weekend, my husband and I discussed delivery this way:
“early anthropological studies of indigenous peoples, who it is documented, favoured upright posture for giving birth (1934 Jarcho).

Coppens 2005 gives more details if you need a reference.

Not just northern native American Indians,


ancient Egyptian, Greek and Roman civilisations.

One of the earliest written records of women being required to lie down for birth is from Mauriceau’s textbook of 1678 (Dunn 1991).”


I still need to check out this website:





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on wrapping paper

We all have probably gotten a gift wrapped in the comic from newspapers,


I thought these “recycling” ideas were good:

-“old maps” (if I hadn’t just recycled at the beginning of the month, more than one Christmas gift would have been in THIS!)

-“retro book pages” (if you can find one that’s ready to be trashed… as in not a good read…


if it’s not already moldy smelling… no one wants any of that!)


A friend once gave a DVD,

INSIDE a phone book. They cut out the center part of the pages and put the DVD inside the newly made cavity = SUPER-cool = especially the face of their friend when they opened their gift to find a phone book!


When I was broke $,

I often wrapped gifts in magazine pages. They are VERY pretty pages out there,


usually endless people willing to share their old magazines.


Another fun find that my artists friends seemed to like receiving

was gifts wrapped in drawer-liner paper…

it’s really a giant sticker, so just peel off the backing when your wrapping, and no tape needed.


I pondered saving this post until about October,


Valentine’s Day is right around the corner…

wrap something pretty for your loved ones


at the very least send a home-made card. Share love. It helps.


“” = material from free booklet I was given while checking out at the newest StL grocery store:

I’ve been enjoying exploring their bulk-food section as that’s Kurt’s fav part of groceries.

Thanks to Facebook, I learned of their amazing GRAND-opening prices and was able to stock-up on some good stuff!

Another website on the booklet … I’m guessing is for more coupons:

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on hugs

Hugs are free… So are smiles.

Hugs are therapeutic… So are smiles.

Step out and give someone a hug… be safe, and don’t be weird about it.

Ever have a ‘yucky’ day…?

Lately, I’ve been having one or two a week,


I know it’s related to change. I HATE change,


I KNOW, God is fine with change… look at the weather in Missouri.

Last week,

I needed a hug,


for some reason I asked someone I had met the week before for one…

I don’t think I’ve ever done this.

Then yesterday,

she needed a hug… and went after one… didn’t ask, just moved in.

Her life has a change in it…

change can be hard.

Last week, when I needed a hug… I was dealing with change.

Change is HARD.


Need I say more…?

Love – hate relationship.

I’m on my SECOND brand new iPhone6s PLUS…


2 and 1/2 weeks…

Why does it always seem like I’m the ONE to find glitches…?

Last week,

it stressed me out.

This week,


Lost data… whatever.

Just 2 and 1/2 years of my life… whatever.

Can’t take it with me.

To Heaven,

ya know.

Hormones, I think it all has to do with hormones… they make us so weird.



Last week I missed a meal dealing with drama on my new phone at the Store


even L-O-N-G-E-R on the phone with AppleCare (in the mall – which I cannot recommend)…

Having to call AppleCare

was equally unpleasant the week before

in the other mall

when I was at that Store for classes too…


had an issue… with my lovely new device.

Before the 17th


this month,

I LOVED all things Apple…




Love – hate.

I still think they make a superior device,


if this new one doesn’t start acting ‘properly.’ It’ll be going back to it’s maker too.

Back to hugs:

They are better than technology. So is paper. I’m touch. I don’t enjoy digital books


digital calendars.

I’m trying



I am.

So glad

I live in the country,


the big event of the day is time with the chickens.

Funny enough,

my Mom

was right there with me – through it all at the mall… as she’s a quicker technology adaptor than me,


she wants to do Twitter and Facebook. I’ve never experienced the former,


I will learn.


too much coffee = trains of thought.

I’m in my 40s now…


I’ve lived apart from my Mom for MANY a year.

I don’t turn to her first

to fill my “Love-Tank” (read the book: “5 Love Languages”).

I’m touch.


it’s one of my NEEDs.

I also like kind words… that’s another Love-language.

Everyone has a different dialect…


when my new friend hugged me, it was OBVIOUS that touch is HIGHER in her Love-Language scale than mine.

It was l-o-n-g


it was tight. That’s clearly her dialect… or the depth of her need.

I’m glad God made me comfy with touch – her hug was NOT awkward…


if it did make the young man in the store who was helping me




before the end of our visit… I personally think he wanted a hug too,


he settled for a handshake.

To each their own.

My husband would not have been jealous either way,

he was a ‘puppy.’

A tall ‘puppy,’


still a ‘puppy’ (A VERY y-o-u-n-g man.).

Funny enough,

I’ve written about hugs before… for a very cool verse,


a much shorter blog from 2008:

Step out – LOVE on people… they need u as much as u need them.

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on Tabitha Caplinger’s “The Chronicle of the Three: Bloodline”

Bloodline coverI was honored to be one of the reviewers of this book.

It made me smile… often,


cry… that takes a LOT!

Tabitha is one of the youth pastors at Faith Community Church,


she wrote a book!


It’s good. I didn’t want to stop it after I started it!


I’ll have to check the author to see if I can add quotes (but here’s a line that spoke to me: “there is hope for the hopeless”).


Pre-order as of 9-22-15!

Author’s blog:!TCO3Bloodline/c550/560012b00cf24bfae8062b42

My review on Goodreads:


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on your armor

My friend Josiah shared a message he heard … here’s my notes. I hope u too r encouraged:


“We sit with Christ in Heavenly places.

Submit to God, resist the devil.

 Walk in obedience – obey His Word.

 Our sword is the Word of God.

I belong to God.

He interrupts your schedule.

flesh says, ‘I’m too tired.’

<Paraphrased: Can He trust u?

Will u obey Him?>

 C/o = the flesh <Truth.>

 Church produces soldiers = learn to endure hard-times, when it doesn’t go your way”.

The devil is your enemy. 2 Cor. 2:11=his schemes… discern, see with your spiritual eyes.

Holy Spirit is a spy in the enemy’s camp.”   

  • James Bolin
  • “<>” = is me.


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on grace… when u need it

I broke out singing Rich Mullins, “Awesome God” today


adrenaline rushed thru my system causing my entire body to shake and my voice to tremble.

I was glad.

I was alive.

I should have died. I’ve stopped counting the times …

This time, a car ran a red light…

By God’s grace, I was able to stop my car in the nick of time… I drove on wondering if I lost any part of my bumper…

2nd time this year that I wondered if was car was damaged…

It’s a virtual tank.

A gift from God.

Last week, about the same time of day…

another car, bigger – nicer – newer was IN MY LANE as I came around a corner on a country road… how I stopped is still TOTALLY God.

His Grace.

He is amazing.

He is my song.

Thank you Rich Mullins for giving me the words.

“My God is an awesome God…”

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