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on a guide for midwives

Back in college, I pondered becoming a midwife…

training though was out of state, and another 5 years of my life.

When I was pregnant with my first, I went to a midwife center,

the best:

a lending-library!

Here’s just a few notes that stuck out to me in a review of the book:

“Evidence-Based Care for Normal Labour and Birth – A Guide for Midwives”

by Denis Walsh

“Les than 60% of women experienced contractions as the starting point of their labours.

-28% = fluid loss

-24% = constant pain

-16% = blood-stained loss

-6% = emotional upheaval

-4% = sleep alterations

as heralding the start of labour, none of which fit the classic textbook definition.”

Learned last night,

one lady experienced stomach upset-ness…


delivered a baby. She never even knew she was pregnant.


This weekend, my husband and I discussed delivery this way:
“early anthropological studies of indigenous peoples, who it is documented, favoured upright posture for giving birth (1934 Jarcho).

Coppens 2005 gives more details if you need a reference.

Not just northern native American Indians,


ancient Egyptian, Greek and Roman civilisations.

One of the earliest written records of women being required to lie down for birth is from Mauriceau’s textbook of 1678 (Dunn 1991).”


I still need to check out this website:






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on hugs

Hugs are free… So are smiles.

Hugs are therapeutic… So are smiles.

Step out and give someone a hug… be safe, and don’t be weird about it.

Ever have a ‘yucky’ day…?

Lately, I’ve been having one or two a week,


I know it’s related to change. I HATE change,


I KNOW, God is fine with change… look at the weather in Missouri.

Last week,

I needed a hug,


for some reason I asked someone I had met the week before for one…

I don’t think I’ve ever done this.

Then yesterday,

she needed a hug… and went after one… didn’t ask, just moved in.

Her life has a change in it…

change can be hard.

Last week, when I needed a hug… I was dealing with change.

Change is HARD.


Need I say more…?

Love – hate relationship.

I’m on my SECOND brand new iPhone6s PLUS…


2 and 1/2 weeks…

Why does it always seem like I’m the ONE to find glitches…?

Last week,

it stressed me out.

This week,


Lost data… whatever.

Just 2 and 1/2 years of my life… whatever.

Can’t take it with me.

To Heaven,

ya know.

Hormones, I think it all has to do with hormones… they make us so weird.



Last week I missed a meal dealing with drama on my new phone at the Store


even L-O-N-G-E-R on the phone with AppleCare (in the mall – which I cannot recommend)…

Having to call AppleCare

was equally unpleasant the week before

in the other mall

when I was at that Store for classes too…


had an issue… with my lovely new device.

Before the 17th


this month,

I LOVED all things Apple…




Love – hate.

I still think they make a superior device,


if this new one doesn’t start acting ‘properly.’ It’ll be going back to it’s maker too.

Back to hugs:

They are better than technology. So is paper. I’m touch. I don’t enjoy digital books


digital calendars.

I’m trying



I am.

So glad

I live in the country,


the big event of the day is time with the chickens.

Funny enough,

my Mom

was right there with me – through it all at the mall… as she’s a quicker technology adaptor than me,


she wants to do Twitter and Facebook. I’ve never experienced the former,


I will learn.


too much coffee = trains of thought.

I’m in my 40s now…


I’ve lived apart from my Mom for MANY a year.

I don’t turn to her first

to fill my “Love-Tank” (read the book: “5 Love Languages”).

I’m touch.


it’s one of my NEEDs.

I also like kind words… that’s another Love-language.

Everyone has a different dialect…


when my new friend hugged me, it was OBVIOUS that touch is HIGHER in her Love-Language scale than mine.

It was l-o-n-g


it was tight. That’s clearly her dialect… or the depth of her need.

I’m glad God made me comfy with touch – her hug was NOT awkward…


if it did make the young man in the store who was helping me




before the end of our visit… I personally think he wanted a hug too,


he settled for a handshake.

To each their own.

My husband would not have been jealous either way,

he was a ‘puppy.’

A tall ‘puppy,’


still a ‘puppy’ (A VERY y-o-u-n-g man.).

Funny enough,

I’ve written about hugs before… for a very cool verse,


a much shorter blog from 2008:

Step out – LOVE on people… they need u as much as u need them.

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on listening to your Mother

I had another one of those experiences where I found myself frustrated…

with my Mom.

I knew I should not be,


I was.

I just want to be nice to her,


unlike any other soul on the earth, she knows the speed-dial-sequence for my anger-zone.

It’s hard because after all these years ya’d think she’d KNOW me,


she doesn’t.

I really only feel like God knows me,


that makes sense doesn’t it = He MADE me.

Psalm 139.

The Creator.

This verse helped me,

helped me to repent

for being frustrated with Mom.

She did teach me the value of going to church – of serving others – of being generous – of praying – of seeking God’s will…

she taught me eternal things. For that, I am FOREVER grateful:

“[ Continue to Live in Christ ] As you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so continue to live in him. Keep your roots deep in him and have your lives built on him. Be strong in the faith, just as you were taught, and always be thankful.”
Colossians 2:6-7 NCV

Seek Him and find Him.

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on Goodreads

Wrote a review.


Book can now be pre-ordered.

If you are like me


just want to read what I wrote HERE

instead of

clicking on a link:

“Fiction is one of my top reads. I LOVE it when it makes me laugh and cry,


THIS book did both. Multiple times.
I was so into it the first read that I didn’t even hear the laundry buzzer go off


even look up for the first five chapters!
I wanted to KNOW more… so intriguing and interesting.
I saw the author unexpectedly


asked her if she had ever read C.S. Lewis’ “The Screwtape Letters,” as it kept coming to mind while I read
she replied, “yes.”
I KNEW then

I had to finish the book

THAT week.

I was not disappointed.
I’ll be reading it again.
I believe

we’ll see this one on the BIG screen one day – hopefully soon!”


For the official review:

Tabitha Caplinger’s “The Chronicle of the Three: Bloodline”

She’s also one of the youth pastors at Faith Community Church where I now attend multiple times each week!

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on Tabitha Caplinger’s “The Chronicle of the Three: Bloodline”

Bloodline coverI was honored to be one of the reviewers of this book.

It made me smile… often,


cry… that takes a LOT!

Tabitha is one of the youth pastors at Faith Community Church,


she wrote a book!


It’s good. I didn’t want to stop it after I started it!


I’ll have to check the author to see if I can add quotes (but here’s a line that spoke to me: “there is hope for the hopeless”).


Pre-order as of 9-22-15!

Author’s blog:!TCO3Bloodline/c550/560012b00cf24bfae8062b42

My review on Goodreads:


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on almost a year

In less than 2 weeks,

I will have been married a year.

To say TIME has moved quickly would be an understatement.

We were engaged for over 10 months…


that ‘felt’ WAY l-o-n-g-e-r.

Time is relative.

We were a couple for a little over 6 months before becoming engaged,


dated a little over 2 months before that!


I appreciate all that time together BEFORE life got REALLY interesting…

In this last year, we have had LOTS happen:

-My Mom was diagnosed with skin cancer a little over a month after we were married…

which made me completely lose focus

as I did NOT want to lose my Mom.


God heard my prayers. Her surgery was a success. In and out in less than an hour… the surgeon said not to tell anyone it was so fast. How can I NOT. PRAISE THE LORD.


-Then the joy of being pregnant…





Now, giving it all away …


the bleeding

started at Christmas


Baby #1 left us on New Year’s Day. Not the way to bring in the New,


I have NEVER felt as close to the Lord as I did in the wee-hours of that morning. I KNEW without a shadow of the doubt that He was with me,


I would see Emili Sky in Heaven when my time comes.

-Then the interesting and l-o-n-g recovery from that… only to become prego again, and miscarry again. This time NOT nearly as dramatic. I did not pass-out or bleed for over a month. THANK YOU JESUS.

I actually went to work that day at the end of June.

-Followed by an infection…


at least that’s what I’m going to call it.


-I ‘just’ started feeling ‘normal’ for the FIRST time since BEFORE I was engaged… only to wonder if I might be prego again.



God’s timing is perfect,


I trust Him.

So I started writing this …

pondering life,

as I do laundry,


if my other married lady-friends feel that they do WAY more laundry NOW that they are married.

My husband has quietly shared that marriage has brought MORE responsibility to Him,


in his defense, he only brings up the credit card bills and utility bills occasionally. Thank You Jesus. I don’t enjoy conflict.

He will always be amazing to me


one of the 1st things he did after we were married was to give me a credit card!

As a girl …um, I guess I’m actually a lady now. 41…

who has been ‘on her own’ since she left for college at a young 18, this was FANTASTIC! I recommend it for ALL marriages… if you want a happy wife.


Like God,

it was for what I NEEDED…

not necessarily WANTS.





I enjoy our chickens,

mainly because they don’t NEED me or WANT me,


they do NEED me to fill their water and food. I like to ‘feel’ needed. Kurt doesn’t really ‘need’ me for anything, but those things he would NEVER share with another. He’s a gardener, a chef, a designer, a builder –

He’s self-motiviated,

even with exercise.

He’s amazing in EVERY way.

He was an engineer in the military,


I watched him show a 4 year old we were watching at church how gears functioned.

We were playing with legos and watching, “Veggie Tales – Josh and the BIG wall.”

Multi-tasking is FUN in EVERY arena of life.


I ‘feel’ totally LOVED by God.

He answers my prayers – and that helps me to pray MORE. For more people. More issues.

I don’t have to work,


I get to work.

I want to honor God in all that I do.

He is an AWESOME God.


Every day is a NEW day,


I look forward in knowing Him more.

I KNOW He will help me be better in ALL the roles of life. It’s what Knowing Him does.


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on plant therapy

I KNEW all those plants in college made a difference…

especially that time in the dorm with the “wall” of plants. It was nice living – facing east… except when it was sunrise…


“Plants can have a significant calming effect


can allow people to relax

during a stressful time” – Jennifer Smith, registered horticultural therapist


getting married and moving to my husband’s house,

spending time on the sunporch was JUST what I needed. Full of blooming plants: October-May when we took ’em back outside.


God is so good.

All the time.

Romans 8:28

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